So the devious side of me had an idea...
In our brief discussion about moving forward, I told Mr. Big that I was going to become an active person in his life and that I was no longer going to be tucked away in a corner.
To show him how serious I am, I sent a couple gifts to his home. Addressed to him and his son. Abbi not included.
And on the gift notes, I wrote inside jokes, shared between Mr. Big and I. My hope is that she sees the notes, asks who they're from, realizes that he's lying and it sparks an argument or two. And at the end, I addressed them as "Love You".
Abbi doesn't realize that I got game too.
could you go into a bit of detail about why you're so angry with *her* and not so much *him*? He's the one that married her (if she's as evil as you say/think), he's the one that's been lying to you about having a kid with her, who's obviously perfectly content to have his cake and eat it too. So how is this the wife's fault again?
ReplyDeleteNot criticizing, just wondering...
Honestly, I don't think it's her fault. But I don't feel bad for her in the situation either. I understand that I hear one side of the story, but if she really did manipulate him when he was at rock bottom, pressured him to marry her, took advantage of him and is threatening to take his son, she is just as guilty.
ReplyDeleteI believe that strong, independent, good women wouldn't do that to someone they "love". If she truly loved him, she would have waited until he got back on the right track. She knows that her marriage is a sham (his words) but yet she stays.
And please don't think I'm not furious with Mr. Big. I'm disgusted with him, with myself. I have days where I want to destroy him and not think about the consequences...but what kind of person am I if I do that?
I'm in love with this man. And have been for many many years. And our relationship hit rock bottom because of his drug addiction and his lies and everything he did during that time.
ReplyDeleteAnd now that he's in a place where he can truly pick up the pieces and we can figure out what really exists between us, I'm the mistress because she manipulated him into something he didn't want (his words).
So now my choice is to stay and be this person, which disgusts me, or leave and risk never knowing what all of this is between Mr. Big and I.
I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't...and her role in all of this infuriates me. Abbi is not an innocent victim.
it seems like the dude is the manipulative one. he gets want he wants here there and everywhere. and he lies about it.
ReplyDeleteI don't disagree with that either. They both are. She saw an opportunity and took it and he let her walk all over him. And he lied and then told more lies to cover up his lies and eventually it blew up in his face.
ReplyDeleteBut at the end of the day, I can't deny that the chemistry and the connection he and I share. It's awful because I know I should tell him to F off and be done with it, but there really is something here.