Love and Hate?

Is it Def Leppard that said "when love and hate collide"?

That's the best way to describe how I feel right now.  I love Mr. Big.  I do.  Deep down, I know what kind of man he is and I know that he is a good guy.  And I know that in his mind, he thinks he's doing the right thing by staying in this failed, ridiculous "marriage" with Abbi.  He doesn't want his child to be the product of a broken home.  I get it.  And deep down, I think I love him for that. 

But the hate is so consuming sometimes.  I have moments where I want to rage.  I want to destroy him.  Hurt him as much as he hurt me.  Tell everyone in his life who he really is and what he's really done. 

So how do you cope?  How do you deal with loving someone so much that in spite of everything they've done, you want to work on this with them and figure all of this out with them, but you also want to destroy them at the same time.

Which emotion is going to win?