Stop Cheating on your Wife

So yes, as you have probably come to realize, I don't always have a filter and tend to say what I want without necessarily thinking...

I lost my shit.  I yelled at him and told him to just call me what I am, which is a mistress and that he needs to stop cheating on his wife.  He told me that I am constantly judging him...my response:

"You know, my immediate reaction was, I’m not judging your life.  But you’re right.  I am.  What you’re doing is SO HURTFUL to me.  The fact that you CHOSE to stay with someone who doesn’t love you, doesn’t care about you, LIED TO YOU, MANIPULATED YOU, CHEATED ON YOU, and FORCED YOU TO MARRY HER, over stepping back and really stopping to figure this out with me, HURTS more than you will ever really know.  She’s a LYING SACK OF SH*T WHORE and now once again, you push me to the back seat so you can have a baby with this c*nt???????????????????????  So yes, I’m judging you because you know you don’t love her and you know that what you’re doing is wrong, but yet, you’re choosing her.  And OUR “RELATIONSHIP” is SUFFERING SEVERELY from it."

Maybe I am judging...does that make me a terrible person?  And why is it okay that he can justify all of this any way he sees fit, but as soon as I have an opinion, albeit, a loud, possibly rude one, I am the one who's a bitch?  Is it because he doesn't want to own up to the truth?